What do you want? You already have it.

AHHHH yessss!! My second blog entry! Very excite!! Here it is in it's entirety. It's titled "What do you want? you already have it." This is a subject near to my heart and something that I learned from again Tony Robbins (I told you a lot of this stuff is not something I created but learned rather). By the way, before you say "Why does this dude listen to people like that, can't he figure life out for himself. He's just living some way that someone else has lived?" Well yes and no. I believe that modeling someone who already has the results you want is one of the most effective ways to getting what you want and can cut A LOT of time off of you trying to figure it out yourself. I just want to get this out of the way because either it's my conscious or I've gotten enough flak to know that before you take any wisdom from me (if I have any?) that this natural skeptism is going to occur. I don't just shove whatever Tony Robbins says or any other self help advice down my throat before I look at a few things: does this person have the results I want? Does this make sense to me? Is this something I can apply to my own life? And sometimes, yes it backfires, but I not afraid to fail in the process of getting what I want. So if you've ever been skepticle of even listening to a man like that then it's okay. You may have thought about it and wanted to change your life, you just didn't because deep down you're just gutless. Pussy. Hehehe just kidding. Kinda.

OKAYYY Anyway, What do you want and guess what you already have it. Think about it for a second. What do you want? A boat? A certain job? A relationship? Fame? Money? Whatever it is, I would argue that all you want is a feeling. Again think about it. All you want is something because you think that it will make you feel good. You want a boat because you think when you are out there on the lake and having fun THEN you can feel good. You want that relationship because then you won't feel lonely or unloved and then you will feel good. Life is emotion. While goal setting and having things you want are all good and healthy things, you don't have to wait to get them to really enjoy your life. You can feel good now. (Oh and by the way if you're wondering if this is coming from someone who already has this result, Tony Robbins is the most passionate and happy person I've ever seen.) This is something that I really had to learn because I was always chasing things and going after goals, I still am, but now I feel good in the process. Anything you want ALWAYS comes back to the fact that when you get it you give yourself permission to feel good.

So what are a few things you can do to feel good? Well to change the way you feel there are two things that you can do: change what you're focused on and/or change the way you're using your body. If you don't feel good it's because you're either focused on a thought or set of thoughts that make us feel bad in our body or you're not moving enough physically. Remember these two things, motion is emotion and you feel what you focus on. When you're moving around and doing stuff you feel better than if you're being lazy. Have you ever just sat around all day and didn't do anything? You probably felt pretty shitty after you did and that's because you weren't moving and it could have been combined with the thoughts that "I'm a lazy fuck." And that would not help make you feel good either. It's just the way our mind and body works. So to change your focus what can you do? Well there's a few things: ask new questions, listen to music, do something else, jump up and down, scream out loud and say something funny in public. What you are doing and ideally want to do is break the negative thought patterns that are going on inside your head. This isn't always easy at first but the more you break these patterns the easier it gets and the more mental/emotional muscle you develop. I've found the easiest for me when I feel shitty is really just change my physiology. I'll get up and move around, go for a run or something. I have been doing these kinds of things for over a year now and I can honestly say that on a day to day basis I feel really fucking awesome inside for the most part. There are a few times when it waviers (being hung over), but for the most part there's really not too much that can piss me off or make me feel shitty. And guess what in the last year what I've gone through is a lot of shit that would make most people feel really shitty on a constant basis ie; loss of a long term relationship and being flat broke and in debt and having literally no extra money. These things I'm talking about here can come in EXREMELY useful for anyone in situations like that. And they have for me. So remember this there are two worlds, the outside world and the inside world. You have near to no control over what happens in the outside world, but you have COMPLETE control over what goes on in the inside world. So stop waiting to get something to feel good. Feel good now. You owe it to yourself. Give yourself the gift. Life is awesome if you make it awesome. Take care.


-Nate

My first Post

I've heard it's not easy to stare at a blank page and not know what to put down. Especially now when it's my first entry to a blog ever. I have briefly thought about what exactly I wanted my blog to be about. I have so many inner thoughts and valuable ideas I feel like I could share in so many different areas of life. Most of it is just stuff I've learned from others I wanted to be like. My dad, Tony Robbins, David Deangelo and the Real Social Dynamics team. All of whom if you don't know who those people are they will definately be introduced to you as the entrys go by. But for now I'll continue. There are a range of different topics I'm very interested in and pretty passionate about. To name a few off the top of my head I would say life lessons, relationships, the study of attration, money, health, real happiness, emotions, true fufillment, picking up girls (before you condemn me, the point in my eyes to pick up girls is to ultimately find the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. As we all are trying to do and don't lie because it's a need every human on earth has and that's the need for connection and love. I am just trying to get there through being proactive and meeting new women. It's better than sitting at home on the couch wainting for your dream mate to find you. It's not going to happen.) I'm sure there will be some things and ideas that are my own as well from stuff I've learned through my own life experiance.

There were a few reasons I wanted to start this blog. One because I thought I maybe I could add some value to others and help them with parts of life that I've struggled with. Giving ideas and things I've done with that have helped me get through. Not that I am anyone who has done anything outstanding with my life quite yet but I plan to. With that being said I am a point in my life that I only dreamed of two years ago in the sense that I only wished I could make as money money as I am right now. Keep in mind the more money I make the more I realize that I am a such a small player in a LARGE game. Also the money I make is really nothing at all but I have come from a long hard struggle to even survive financially and provide food for myself that the fact that I can now eat comfortably and do some things I want to do now is an accomplishment in and of itself. I've also gone through a 3 1/2 year realationship which ended in probably the worst way possible. Deep down I can't say I really felt like this was the girl for me to spend my life with but we talked about it so much that I think we both believed it for a bit (at least I did anyways) and made it my reality that I would marry this girl. I can honestly say and please don't judge me for this but going through the end of that relationship was more painful than going through the death of my grandfather. Maybe it's because I felt like my grandpa was where he needed to be and my relationship was not anywhere where I wanted it to be. But the remains of that relationship left me confused and hurt beyond belief and ultimately took my WORST nightmares and made them come true. (Maybe a form of a self fufilling prophecy because I thought about and feared these things happening before they did and ultimately they did happen) Regardless I know relationships is something we all struggle with and whether you have made the decision or not to get this area of life handled it's something I have commited myself to figuring our and succeeding at.

So, if I can articulate the lessons and feelings and thoughts and experiances in words and through writing then I believe not only may it help some others in the process but I will remember it better and those things will be ingrained in me that much deeper. Also people can give me feedback as well and help me with the stuff I'm dealing with and I can learn from them as well. Getting my ideas out and letting people know the way I think and putting it in writing is something I've wanted to do for a long time and although this first post may not have any one main topic or point behind it, I look at it like a first step in a long journey to recording my life. Because if there's one thing that has been hammered into my head from (here it is, first lesson I've learned) Tony Robbins is that a life worth living is a life worth recording. I want to come back years from now and reread these entrys and take me back to just what was happening at that point in time. Maybe for the sake of just remembering but also maybe because it will remind me that if I am struggling that I've been through worse. Maybe because it will remind me where I came from and who I was and how I've become the person I will be in the future. To teach me things about myself and my mind and also my memory. I'm not sure if this is true or not but it's a thought I'm having at the moment and that is that if I put my life down on paper that maybe in the future, events will take on a much deeper meaning because I will be recording those events later and that will make me take a harder look at what's happening and how I'm going to deal with that certain situation.

As I come to a close with this first post to my blog, I hope that I can help someone somehow and if not I know I will help myself. I don' t know if this is stuff everyone already knows already and my guess is to say no it's not. Only because there are few people I know who spend there spare time reading self help or listening to inspiring and strategic cds in there care while driving. All I can do is offer it as I learn it. Maybe people will read it maybe they won't. Maybe people will like it maybe they won't but I can only offer this with out expecting anything in return and offer it I will. I hope you have a great day and live it to your best. Take care. Until next time...